I recently went on a Tinder date with a guy who told me a story about a fist fight he won in high school. I swooned.
Apparently, he was doing it to protect the honor of a girl in his school who was being mistreated by some guys in law school (not your typical miscreants, but maybe things are different where he grew up in Mexico). By the end of the date, I’d heard plenty of other stories proving how
macho hard core he was.
We went on a few dates after that, and my dislike for that part of him continually mounted until the pivotal point when we were having a conversation about relationships and he said, “You like me because I’m a bad boy.”
A. I never said that I liked him
B. I would never like someone who labeled himself as a “bad boy”
C. I wish that I slapped him, but then we might have gotten in a physical fight and he has a MUCH stronger history of winning than I do (plus I’m not a fan of violence)
Labeling himself as a “bad boy” was a pitiful attempt to differentiate himself from guys that he considered to be softer and less manly. Or that was my impression of the situation, is that why guys do that? I have no idea… if you have an opinion please comment below.
Unfortunately, in our society “good guys” get a bad wrap because they are stereotypically boring. (At least that’s my problem with every guy who says “I don’t understand why girls won’t date me, I’m a great guy!”)
Women People want to be with other people who are confident and passionate about life.
I would take a “nice” guy who is confident and passionate about his life over some narcissistic guy who has muscles large enough to guard frail female honor and a sports car small enough to barely fit his ego.